I'm installing 2 Bilstein F4-B46-1099-H2 (24-187824) on the front of my 2001 SE 4wd. for the top mount they provide you with 2 cylindrical shaped rubber bushings. When tightening do you tighten the nut on the top of the shaft until the bushings are flattened out and oval shaped or if not how much do you tighten them? Also does the dust boot just sit on top of the snap ring on the shaft or is it secured somehow? On the bottom mount do you tighten the nut until you can't tighten anymore or is there a place where you should stop?

On the rear I'm installing 2 Bilstein F4-B46-2126-H1 (24-184908). Again how much do I tighten the upper mount and lower mount nuts?

I don't have a torque wrench so I need some way to figure out how much to tighten everything. On the front tops is measuring the space between the top & bottom crush washers a good way and if so what should the space be?

I know these are pretty basic questions but I want to make sure that I install them correctly.